Some bell hooks "therapy"...

Even though bell doesn't begin speaking until nearly the end of the first video, I included it because I thought the DR.'s (she IS in Texas - guess she wanted to make sure the white folk present didn't get shit twisted - you'll see what I mean when you listen) information on studying abroad in Ghana was important.

Sort of in the same vein, when you get a minute, check out this post that my Lil Sis over "At the Bar" wrote about kinfolk going back to Africa.  If it doesn't move you to action - it should at least make you think!





(A little sound problem from the :26 click to the 1:25 click - but do go past it.)



(Now here's a good example of those "multiple intentionalities" (from Slick Willy in Haiti) that bell talks about near the end of the above video - h/t The Haitian Blogger.  So, your blue helmets bring the damned cholera - infecting thousands upon thousands - and NOW, you plan on selling "cholera insurance," to already poor people, to supposedly protect them against the damned cholera you brought?!  SMMFH)

"Can't we all just play some - GOLF!!!"

With this being the Year of the Tiger and all (some interesting and eerily similar characteristics in there), I thought I'd pull him from my next "Ruminations..." post and ruminate on him all by himself since I'd not written anything about any of this.  Well, that and the fact that since I've been ruminating about plenty these days, the post would have just been too damned long!

I was at the breakfast nook table on the laptop, next to the family room, while the local news was on last night.  When I heard the Sports anchor tease his next story:  "Could Tiger be roaming free?  Why some are unhappy they just can't cage him."  My head immediately snapped right toward the TV and I said aloud to myself - "What the hell???"

Now, living in the belly of the beast, I'm not often surprised about things I hear that pass for a professional newscast.  But skin-folk, "roaming free?"  And some (now who, could that some, be?), being "unhappy about not being able to cage" skin-folk?  Well!  I just thought that deserved my undivided attention.

Turns out, he was talking about the Golf Writers Association of America being pissed off that Tiger wouldn't let them all come to his official "Apology Conference" and, that he had decreed - Yeah, I said DECREED, because that's,  primarily, what  "This shit right here?" is about (Sorry, had a spell of Katt Williams remix all of a sudden).

He also decreed, that no one could ask him MORE sordid questions, about this whole sordid affair.  I could just hear them screeching (in private of course) - "Who in the he-e-e-l-l does he think he is, telling US what we can, and cannot do??!!" 

I couldn't find the video on the local news site, but here's a short, pre-Apology Conference piece from the Globe and Mail - Golf Writers boycott Woods' conference.  Let me save you some time (it's very short):

“I cannot stress how strongly our board felt that this should be open to all media and also for the opportunity to question Woods,” said Vartan Kupelian, president of the 950-member group (emphasis mine).

What damn - GOLF things - do they want to question him about? 

“The position, simply put, is all or none. This is a major story of international scope. To limit the ability of journalists to attend, listen, see and question Woods goes against the grain of everything we believe.” (emphasis mine)

This is an international - GOLF story???  To limit the ability of journalists to attend, listen, see and question (no Mr. huh?) Woods goes against the grain of everything they believe about - GOLF?  Yeah, right.  More like "goes against everything they believe" about skin-folk/kinfolk knowing their damn place.

The GWAA said it believes strongly that its presence, without the ability to ask question, gives credibility to an event that isn’t worthy of it. (emphasis mine)

Okay, you're tellin' me that whether they're there or not  - MATTERS??!!  And, "W-O-R-T-H-Y?"  Really?? Jesus please take the wheel!!!  Who are these people???

I couldn't find a photo of the Board of Directors or the whole group, but here's one admitted member (he gets around to that admission at the end of that piece), Steve Elling - with yet another piece in less than 24 hours:  "Tiger must serve penance for repentance to be believed."   Man, the way, "I'm your Massa" just hovers over his headline, I'm not surprised he's not - "Cablanasian."  You? 

"Credibility??"  Golf didn't have "credibility" before they came on the scene??  White Americans, and those,"I've-arrived-cuz-I-think-like-them" others - REALLY need to get a grip.  Will somebody please tell the Golf Writers of America Association they ain't all that?!  If anybody had JACK to do with golf's now, highly touted presence as a sport here in the US of A, it was Tiger - not them "writing about Tiger!" 

Just sayin'

I tell you, they make me long for those,  I-can-say-what-I-wanna, in your face, privileged and out-in-the-open white supremacists with whom I grew up in South Carolina!  You know, like good, ole Fuzzy Zoeller.  You remember him don't you?  From back in 1997, when Tiger spanked that ass "...won the tournament, shooting a record 18 under par, becoming the first African American to win a major professional golf tournament. "  Yeah him.  At least it was clear to everybody and their Mama what his beliefs were. 

Instead, what we have, is just another group dripping of white, American, patriarchal privilege, cloaked in an extremely inflated sense of journalistic self-importance, making up a reason why they're picking up their marbles and going home.  (They need to stop that damn lying!)

No need to post the whole, handler-orchestrated-with-some-input-from-Tiger mea culpa here, I'm sure you've heard it a million times - today.  But just watch this little piece: 



Just this little snippet is worth noting for a couple of reasons:  1) staged or not, he pretty much took full responsibility with all the "I" did this and "I" did that.  Okay, so I'm not buying the whole "treatment" shit (sex addiction rehab? Who is he, David Duchovney?) - IMHO, that's surely handler-orchestrated. And,  2) Look at that boy's Mama ya'll!  Watching the entire 13+ minute video, I just couldn't help it - my heart just ached for this woman, trying to show her "unconditional love" for her son - by sitting through that shit!  She couldn't even look at him through it all.

Quick story:  While visiting the grandparents in 2005 with their father, my sons had this picture taken at the annual 15k/5k Boilermaker held in upstate New York just before the youngest ran the 5k race. The event draws sponsors of all stripes, to include Buick - for whom Tiger was the - then - front man.

When they got home and showed it to me, I said, "Great picture!  So what's he like?"  They both started to make up some story, but just couldn't carry the lie.  Rolling on the floor laughing, they said, "Mom, it ain't real!" 

Which brings me to another point I've been pondering: The photo is an ILLUSION.  It's merely a slick piece of promotional marketing that Buick created with the use of a "green screen," much like the man whose name is not only on the lips of many a disappointed fan and huffy journalist, but also upon the lips of those who used to -  and/or still do - pay big bucks to have him "endorse their "goods."  All any of us will ever know for sure, is that the man is a phenomenal - GOLFER.

But none of this never-ending hullabaloo is really about - GOLF!!  Or is it just me?  Same thing when Miss Kelly made her back-handed, clearly privileged, supremacist-state-of-mind compliment about how the only way young GOLFERS could challenge Tiger and beat him, was to take his ass out and "lynch him in a back alley."  Only difference is, that two-week suspension she earned was a little bit about - GOLF!

Let's be clear - with or without their cutting off their noses to spite their damn faces - I still care more about the continued negative framing of Black men  by the White Supremacist Capitalist Patriarchy (WSCP), than I do about why he did what he's done.  Far as I'm concerned, it doesn't really "come befo' me," (as my Grandmama used to say).  That's between him and the wife on how they work out lying to each other - and themselves. 

But,  "This shit right here??" (go away Katt!) is different:

Just seems it will never end! I don't care what silliness photographer-to-the-stars, Annie Leibovitz had to say about this little gem she took, held and later published when the shit was heatin' up (Yes, some women do enjoy a larger-than-they'll-admit role in the WSCP):

“Tiger is an intensely competitive athlete—and quite serious about his sport. I wanted to reveal that in these photos. And to show his incredible focus and dedication.”

What in the-e hell does that have do with him being naked from the waist up, flexin' with two weights, wearin' a skully, lookin' like he's takin' advantage of his 1-hour of "yard time??"

Not a damn thing, that's what.  But Leibovitz, Vanity Fair and less recently - Vogue all have a problem with owning their shit - just like the GWAA, Harry Reid and a whole lot of white folk.

Remember this lovely re-creation of an old, Army recruitment poster by Miss Ann Annie in 2008?:

This not-subtley titled piece from guardianuk.com back then - Spot the difference: what is this US Vogue cover trying to say? - said it better than I ever could:

A look at how Vogue treated the pictures of Richard Gere in 1992 and George Clooney in 2000, the only other men to have graced the cover in the fashion magazine's 116-year history, may prove instructive.

Gere and Clooney appeared with supermodels, too. In Gere's case, Cindy Crawford; in Clooney's, Bündchen. There the similarities end: unlike James, Gere and Clooney look stylish and classy as they cosy up to their partners. As a blogger at Guanabee.com puts it: "The last time Gisele was on the cover she got to hug the [white guy] back."

And that, coupled with the remarkable similarity of the images, is why so many people believe Vogue has quite deliberately made a monkey out of King James.  (emphasis mine)

King James ain't the only one. 

Seems like unless and until Tiger grovels at their feet rather than being "obviously defiant" as Elling noted in that second article above - we'll be hearing way more shit about who is, or has been, sharing his bed, or car, or couch or whatever from these clowns.  My advice to him is, "Get back on the links and go to work!"  PLAY GOLF!  Sooner or later, they'll all be back - who they are, won't let them stay away.

And the beat goes on...

UPDATE:  As my blog sister Cinie so aptly pointed out in her comment - it's not just white folk. I alluded to that point above when I said, "White Americans, and those,"I've-arrived-cuz-I-think-like-them" others - REALLY need to get a grip," and also when I mentioned that women too play a part in the WSCP. But let me just be clear. To my mind, it all flows from the traumatic, inhumane and systematic domination of white folk in the lives of people of color.  And when  and if, we talk about race (for real), I think that's an important point to understand.  So I thought I'd call on my Sister, bell hooks, to help me clarify. In this 8:41 second video, she begins by explaining "motivated representations" (such as the Vanity Fair and Vogue covers here). Then, around the 4:29 click, she explains the White Supremacist Capitalist Patriarchy in a way that I think will put my use of the term hence, in a much clearer perspective. Enjoy!)

For whom the "bell" tolls - she tolls for thee

***WARNING: POST DEFINITELY FOR GROWN FOLKS***

As I continue to think about the presidential seal the Changeling has stamped on the ethnic cleansing of Blacks in this country, I kept hearing bell hooks in my head, so I thought I'd go look for her to help keep things in perspective. Her take on the media's motivated representations of feminism could definitely be applied to the selection of Barack Obama, the White Supremacist Capitalist Patriarchy's "ushering in of a new, old version of the desirable" - Black man...

...and a recent conversation with "ea" about Hip-Hop and this article, "Is Obama's presidency the change hip-hop needs?" by Glen Gamboa at Newsday, sent me looking for some more bell to offer a much better perspective on the "change hip-hop needs"...

Nothing like a good dose of plain, old truth to shake the cobwebs loose.

CNN's "Black in America" misses the mark

You know, I like Soledad O'Brien’s work. Since she’s joined CNN, she has at least made a concerted effort to give Black lives a seat at the network's heretofore unbalanced coverage table. So I really wanted to watch this special. However, I had no expectations or pre-conceived notions that it would be some groundbreaking, life-changing or particularly edifying commentary on our lives. After all, to quote Sugar over at Sugar-N-Spice, "I already know what it's like to be Black in America!"

I was more interested in filtering out the noise of statistics and “expert” opinions to see if there’d be any signs of change in the coverage we ‘re afforded given our highly touted “post-racial” society. I wanted to see if we’d changed as well, given all this new found, rampant pride in the symbolism that is Obama. In both cases, I saw little if any change. And if we’re honest, in light of an Obama presidency, the possibility of any real change heading down the pike appears fleeting - at best.

Give a carefully crafted, media-hyped speech on race, channel MLK or JFK as appropriate, throw in a Father's Day lecture wherein he fronts like he knows what the Black experience in America is all about and all you end up with (to borrow a phrase from bell hooks at Portland, Oregon's, Lewis & Clark College back in 2006) is an eager audience of "unenlightened white people worshipping at the throne of Black mediocrity" joined by a group of Black folks for whom the shaming and blaming of their own has taken on an eerie, Stockholm Syndrome-like quality. Man! If he's selected to the Burning House, his presidency will only provide even more fodder for those who insist we “Quit whining!” because slavery’s over.

I'm no shrink, but I believe Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (in our case, Post Traumatic Slavery Disorder) is no less prevalent or debilitating to the souls and minds of our people as that suffered by returning war veterans, battered women, abused children or even - elephants, as it turns out. Yes, I said elephants! For all CNN’s questions and portrayals of dysfunction in the Black community and all the Black participants’ responses to those questions and portrayals, it seems not many people really get, or care to get that fact - which brings me back to the elephants.

20/20 did a segment tonight on elephants suffering PTSD. And, if as Stossel said, “It may change the way you look at elephants,” then why is it that the same disorder, brought about by the same kinds of brutal circumstances which manifest the same undesirable, anti-social behavior in elephants, has not been connected to what is going on in the Black community? Why doesn't it “change” the way white folks and even some Blacks look at the Black community?

Gay Bradshaw, director of The Kerulos Center, was featured in the segment, so I looked her up. I came across her very interesting essay entitled, "Elephant Breakdown" and based on what I read, she gets it! She sees how trauma causes depression, separation anxiety and anti-social, often violent behavior. Look, I know people don't want to be compared to animals, but I challenge you to read the essay and NOT find the distinct similarities, not only in the nature of the trauma, but in the response to it.

As I continued to watch, I thought I was losing my damn mind when the segment about paying 4th graders for good grades came on! I get the incentive thing, okay? And I even applaud Professor Fryar, who came from a crack-infested environment, trying to at least find a solution (Talk about pathology! Having a whole family of crack dealers might make one more inclined to understand the "dollar-bill" mentality - but in a legal way of course). I even agree wholeheartedly with his “meet people where they are approach.” To my mind, that is the only chance of getting through to anyone!

All that being said however, I just cannot believe I'm the only person concerned how this little, Black, poor, 4th grade boy is already equating his self-worth only to that dollar bill and what it can bring! Can I be the only person who saw how hard little man was working, trying to help his Dad keep them in their home only to be put out anyway? Can I be the only one cognizant of the lasting and damaging effects feeling helpless and not good enough can have on children? Not to mention fathers! Does nobody else see how our society is helping to perpetuate this cycle? I'm not mad at money, but isn't there something terribly askew here?

Even in the proud moments, I saw pain. The first thing Butch, the Little Rock superintendent wanted the cameras to get as they visited his office was the sign with his name on it saying he was the superintendent. He even said, “A lot of people wait a long time to get their name on a sign.” I don’t know about you, but that's not a lofty goal of mine. But that seemed more important than sharing what he'd been able to achieve in carrying on the legacy of the Little Rock Nine (but then again, after watching the documentary celebrating the 50th anniversary of the Little Rock Nine, I can see why he didn't want much made of that ).

Even as he talked about loving the view from his McMansion in that predominantly white, Little Rock suburb, the pain and anger of having white police question his even being in that neighborhood during the building of his home was evident. (That reminded me of an incident that happened when we put our Texas home, in an all-white neighborhood, up for sale. A white realtor brought a white prospective buyer to see the house while I was in the front yard gardening. She pulled into the driveway, came up to me and asked if she could speak to the owner. I said, "That'd be me and apparently my agent needs to emphasize that "By Appointment Only" stipulation in the listing." I have to admit, like Butch, I was pissed at her assumption, but I sure took great pleasure in debunking it!).

And again, more pain as he avoided the conversation about his middle son, who'd not followed in his prescribed, "I am somebody" footsteps - getting locked up, embarrassing his brother the prosecutor and the entire family. Of course there are kids who never get into any trouble (or never get caught!), but being a mother of two grown sons myself, I know that number is way less than some would have us believe. Yet when it comes to our children, perfection is demanded lest they draw the scorn of the larger society and the shame of their own people heaped upon them for making the same mistakes many children make in the course of growing up.

Our families are constantly measured against the white, "nuclear family" yardstick. And of course in the eyes of those who choose not to see, we'll always come up short - if for no other reason than the fact that, since the days of Kunte Kinte, someone else’s culture has informed what OUR families are supposed to look like, what OUR names should sound like, what OUR language should sound like, how WE should act, how WE should dress, what OUR hair should look like. Not only does the list go on and on, but the indoctrination continues. Really, how many of you have HOAs or Condo Associations to whom you PAY good money to tell you how to act like a grown-up in the house for which YOU ARE PAYING? How many of you have been turned down for jobs because of those dreads or braids? I know I can raise my hand to both of those! I swear, we seem to be the only minority for whom "ethnic cleansing" was 100% successful.

Unlike many people, I see all the huge occurrences in our community of single-parent households, increased HIV/AIDS cases, absentee fathers, disproportionate incarceration and drop-out rates among our youth as symptoms of much deeper, more pervasive problems which are rarely, if ever, addressed in any substantive way by anyone. Unless and until we truly begin to understand and seriously address the causation staring us all in the face, the symptoms will continue to destroy Black communities from within, while our lives continue to only be their “stories” without.

The rampant patriarchy in America only serves to further diminish our efforts to thrive as a people. And we not only have white men to thank for that, but Black men as well. I’m certainly sick and damn tired of whites constantly using Black single-mothers as whipping posts for the ills of this society, but trust me, I’ve also had my fill of people like Obama, the reverends Sharpton and Jackson, Bill Cosby, that Cosby-kid-by-marriage, Joseph C. Phillips and others jumping on that same bandwagon.

With the exception of Obama, I know the others should know better. Hell I’m a South Carolina girl from a large extended family held together by women, so I know Al and Jesse ought to know better! One of the most damning legacies of slavery is the resulting “village” kept together by Black women as their husbands, sons and fathers were sold off as chattel - or while they or their “girl chillun,”as my grandmother used to say, were left to be raped and brutalized undefended. Don’t talk to me about Black single mothers! Stop measuring my sisters against that white, “nuclear family” yardstick! I'm proud of the way our women have stepped up, stepped in and kept moving despite all the obstacles they’ve faced, so don't look for me to wield the overseer's lash.

Two parent families are great – if you have one. But unless both parents stand "whole" in who they are (and considering our PTSD, many do not, phenomenal financial success notwithstanding), abuse, neglect, abandonment and brokenness can be just as destructive in a two-parent home as in a single-parent home. Having a “man” in the house won’t change that.

In our discussion over at Sugar’s place, ea asked: "Is there any substantive or symbolic difference to a child who doesn't know his or her father whether money comes from him or from the state?" I answered, “Good question, but its answer is not a simple yes or no. I think there's a substantive, not symbolic difference to a child who doesn't know his/her father, but where the money comes from has little, if anything to do with it.” And I firmly believe that. To the kid, it’s not about the money, really it isn’t. It’s about filling that hole in his soul with love, acceptance and encouragement – no matter who’s giving it.

She went on to ask: “Is there some "vicious cycle" in which the lack of a parental male role model leads to more young men not having any notion of what it is to be responsible for anything, much less a child? If one suggests that answer to this question is the affirmative, does that mean that women are inadequate, or better, incomplete as roles models for male children?” To which I replied: “And my answer to your other question about the "vicious cycle" is also yes. But that doesn't mean women are inadequate role models for male children, just different - with different sensibilities (a reason a woman president would have been a great thing!). The noted paradigm however, requires that the socially acceptable, dyed-in-the-wool sensibilities of "men" be different than those under which most women operate.” I stand by that statement as well, because this is a both/and, not an either/or situation. We've got to consider the whole pot of greens, not just the neckbones!

I’d been invited to participate in an online/call-in discussion to be held after the special ended by a sister-blogger. I was interested in hearing the feedback and offering some of my own. Once we were all connected though, the call was hijacked by one of the most racist white men I’ve heard in a very long time. I cannot even repeat some of the things he said here, though I did record it to play for my husband when he gets back into town. Gotta to let him know his “post-racial” candidate’s still got a lot of work to do!

I was startled at my first gut feeling of rage mixed with pain. Immediately I felt like I’d been hurled back into mid-60s, early 70s South Carolina. It was a feeling of which I thought I’d long since disposed. But old wounds die hard. The moderator ended the call and everyone else hung up - but I didn’t. It took me a few seconds to get past the rage and pain, then I composed myself and calmly asked him, “Why are you so afraid?”

Peppered with "cunts", "bitches" and a lot of "niggers", he railed about how he hated us and was not afraid of us and we would see. After about a half-minute or so, I just laughed and told him, “It must really suck to be you with all that misdirected anger boiling in the pit of your stomach. I’m going to hang up now and you should really go and see somebody about that because it’ll kill you one day if you don’t. Bye-bye now!”

A “post-racial” society we are definitely not, don’t let Obama fool you. That caller is not alone, trust me. There are plenty angry, fearful, hateful people out there just like him and we would do well not to forget that. But, as we hold onto that thought, let’s not forget to hold onto each other and those who aren’t anything like him. Let’s purposefully acknowledge (apologies are nice but my grandmother always said, “It ain’t what you say, it’s what you do!”) and seriously address how we got to this place in all our lives. And please Lord! Let’s stop doing the same things and expecting different results - particularly since that’s not been working for any of us up to this point, if the truth be told.